How do you find certainty when you’re making a decision? Just the facts? Prayer? Look for signs? Go with your gut feeling? Or are you a numbers person? This is a love story about moving in together with your partner in the Appalachian Woods.

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My partner, Joey, sends me a spreadsheet on what moving in with him might look like financially.
“We can do this,” he says, “and we save $12,000 if we don’t get this apartment. Please consider it. I know we’ve been reluctant to do this before, but I think we can do it now.”
He’s run the numbers. We’ve always heard numbers don’t lie. This gives him certainty — or a good probability of success. It’s the end of February of 2026. This is the very last day before we take possession of an apartment for me in Knoxville. Deep down, in this economy, with my uncertain gig work, both of us are worried whether I can afford my part of the expenses. We are on the brink of committing to draining his savings to keep me afloat and having me work 3 jobs.
At 4:30 am, he comes up with this spreadsheet.
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